Love, Marriage, and Divorce

Eve Pell, “The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap.”

This essay is a tender, sensual, and sensitive description of the old love and its oddness and beauty. The author, who is an elderly woman, tells the readers about her amazing and partly unbelievable love story that began when she was seventy, and her beloved was eighty years old (Pell). During a short period, they managed to enjoy life and each other because they were free from prejudices, doubts, worries, fears, and hysterics of youth. This is the evidence Pell uses to prove that old love is different but not less powerful.

Reading this article made me realize several things I did not think about before. First of all, love is eternal and timeless – it just exists and may appear when a person does not even expect it. Second of all, there is no absolute, right, and appropriate age for love. Nowadays, young people believe that teen years are the only period when they can meet their beloved ones; if it does not happen, they lose hope.

George Blair-West, “3 Ways to Build a Happy Marriage and Avoid Divorce.”

One of the most important decisions a person makes in his or her life is choosing to get married and share happiness and time with another human. However, the problem is that divorce rates are approaching fifty percent, and this process is considered to be the second on the list of most distressing human experiences (Blair-West). In his speech, George Blair-West shares three essential secrets to spot potential problems while dating and prevent divorce. First of all, he claims that the best a person can do before going to the registry office is getting older. Second of all, men have to respect their women, and the couple needs to share power both while dating and after marriage (Blair-West). Finally, the third life hack is to take care of each other no matter what.

I can say that I like this speech because it is entertaining but also educational. Blair-West’s lifehacks are quite simple, but only some people really use these ideas. Many young girls and boys are rushing into marriage and then cannot wait to get a divorce. A significant number of men are sure that they are the ones to make all the decisions in their families. These are wrong ideas that have to disappear from people’s minds so that divorce rates start reducing.

Hannah Fry, “The Mathematics of Love.”

To most people, love seems to be something magical and Illogical. However, in her wonderful talk, mathematician Hannah Fry uses mathematics to give three verified tips for finding one’s soulmate. She says that people do not always fall in love with their perfect ideal because “human emotion is not neatly ordered and rational and easily predictable” (Fry). Firstly, this science indicates that those people who may be considered both beautiful and ugly by different persons tend to be more successful in online dating websites. Playing up on whatever makes a person different from others is the key to success on such sites. Secondly, there is the optimal stopping theory that helps to find a perfect partner and the ideal time of settling down. Mathematics suggests that, in the first thirty-seven percent of the dating window, a person needs to reject everybody and then pick someone who is better than all people he or she met before (Fry). The third tip helps avoid divorce and suggests that being positive or negative in the conversation tells the chances of getting separated.

I find this speech rather entertaining and interesting, though I am not quite sure that I believe in the connection between mathematics and love. These patterns and equations may really work, but not all the time. Of course, people tend to repeat each other’s actions unintendedly, but there are situations when a person does or says something unpredictable. That is why, in my opinion, it is not quite smart to seek love and rely on mathematics all the time.

Works Cited

Blair-West, George. “3 Ways to Build a Happy Marriage and Avoid Divorce.” TED, Dec. 2017, Web.

Fry, Hannah. “The Mathematics of Love.” TED, 2014, Web.

Pell, Eve. “The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap.” The New York Times, 2013, Web.