Love and desire to live happily form the foundation of marriages and relationships. However, domestic violence becomes a part of marriages and relationships in life-based on how it has caused hopelessness and separation of partners who at once loved each other.
Every marriage encounters disputes and often violence between partners at one time or the other. However, the success or failure of a marriage is fully dependent on the resolution mechanisms of domestic violence.
Domestic violence plays a major role in the development of themes and plots in the movies Gone by the Wind and The War of Roses. To begin with, in the movie Gone by the Wind, domestic violence plays a major role in breaking relationships between characters. It results from greed and selfishness. Secondly, in the movie The War of Roses, domestic violence leads to death of marriage partners and their story heals another marriage life.
Domestic violence refers to the conflicts amongst the members of the family, and in most cases involving the husband and wife. There are instances where children get involved in the conflict, but their involvement is mainly because of the conflict between the parents. Domestic violence results in the breaking of marriages and relationships.
There are various causes of domestic violence, which includes partners’ differences in tastes and preferences, ownership and management of material wealth, unfaithfulness, and lack of trust, disrespectfulness, and partners’ differences in social status among others.
To begin with, because of differences in tastes and preferences, partners may fail to agree on the vacation trip on which to undertake with each one of them sticking to a specific preference, and hence resulting to domestic violence.
Secondly, ownership and management of material wealth is a common cause of domestic violence. Partners may fail to agree on how to manage and to own their material wealth, and as a result, one partner views the other as greedy and disrespectful. Consequently, their disagreements lead to domestic violence.
Thirdly, unfaithfulness and lack of trust on a partner is the most common cause of domestic violence. Faith and trust between partners are strong attachments of marriages and relationships. Hence, there is a high intensity of jealousy and sense of ownership between the partners, which facilitates parallel protection between them. Unfaithfulness and lack of trust between the partners result in domestic violence and separation to the worst-case scenario.
In order for their relations to remain firm, marriage and relationship counselors strongly advise partners to respect one another. Respect between partners keeps the relationship lively and complements their love for one another. However, disrespectful reverses a stable relationship to unstable relationships whenever it arises because it leads to domestic violence (Emanuele et al. 817).
Studies on marriages and relationships find the difference in partners’ social status as a major contributor to domestic violence. This is because of misunderstanding that exists between the partners, as one tends to defend social status that humiliates the other.
For instance, a wife who earns a higher salary than her husband is more likely to associate with a social status that humiliates the husband. On the other hand, the husband may try to reverse the situation in which the wife may be reluctant, hence causing domestic violence.
Domestic violence has negative consequences on marriage and relationships. It often leads to separation of partners, and children with one of their parents or both parents in case of deaths that result from domestic violence.
Also, domestic violence causes deadly illnesses to the partner especially mental and depression related illnesses. It also causes loss of wealth especially when there is a division of family wealth between the divorcing partners whereby one partner played a bigger role than the other did in the acquaintance of such wealth.
Domestic Violence in the Movie
To begin with, in the movie Gone by the Wind, domestic violence plays a major role in the development of the theme. The movie released in 1939 and based on relationships and events that were taking place in America during the American Civil War and Reconstruction. The main, Scarlett, encounters problems on her relationships and marriage life because of greed and domestic violence.
Scarlett secretly loves Ashley, who marries his cousin, Melanie and tells her that their relationship is more compatible after her confession to loving him. Scarlett is greedy and selfish because despite Ashley being a married man, she confesses to loving him and seems prepared to fight for her love against a married woman, Melanie.
Consequently, she consents to marry Charles who proposed on the eve of the American Civil War. Unfortunately, he died at war after succumbing to Pneumonia and measles (Gone with the Wind).
Scarlett is a ludic lover who minds more about quantity than the quality of love. She tirelessly fights for Ashley’s love to the extent that she persuaded him to kiss her in a parlor during Christmas Eve. In addition, she views marriage life as a trap and is likely to commit infidelity. Her ill approach to Ashley, bearing in mind that he is married to Melanie, discloses her ludic love style.
Scarlett lies to Frank Kennedy, her younger sister, Suellen, fiancée, that she married another person after waiting for him for a long time. She marries him after learning that he was wealthy and had a general store and a lumber mill.
Unluckily, Frank passed away after an assault by a bunch of criminals after making a night invasion on a small city, and Scarlett intently flees a gang rape during the confrontation. Her action to take off her sister’s fiancée made her sister to dislike her. Consequently, she does not care about the emergence of domestic violence because of her actions towards her younger sister (Emanuele et al. 815).
In addition, Scarlett marries Rhett, who at once instance commits a marital rape against her. Feeling guilty for his action, he goes to apologize and ask for a divorce for his action. She refuses to divorce him terming it a disgrace upon her if she did it. Rhett takes a trip to London accompanied by Bonnie who falls ill along the way after suffering a terrible nightmare, and their trip cut short (Emanuele et al. 817).
On returning to Scarlett, he reacts negatively to her attempt to reconcile and results to her falling off the stairs and miscarriages. Later Bonnie dies after an attempt to jump over a fence on a pony.
Melanie on her deathbed tells Scarlett not to leave Rhett because he loves her. She visits Rhett and finds him preparing to leave, and confesses to having been in love with him, but he rejected her appeal. He later disappeared into the fog. The movie ends with a failed attempt to reconcile.
Secondly, domestic violence plays a major role in the movie The War of Roses released in 1989 and based on The War of Roses a fictional novel by Warren Alder. It begins with a discussion between Gavin, a lawyer, and his client, Castellaneta. Castellaneta is determined to divorce his wife. Before settling on the necessary action to his application, Gavin offers to share a story of his friend with him.
Oliver Rose met Barbara at an auction. They bid on an antique and became friends after Oliver chatting her. She does not catch up with the ferry, thus opting to sleep at his place. Consequently, they get married and have two kids. Their love relationship seems to be pragmatic whereby the collaborates are brought together by a common interest. Barbara purchases an old mansion, whose owner had died, and renovates it to make a home (Emanuele et al. 819).
Oliver progresses well in his law career, and on the other hand, Barbara begins to dislike him. Oliver seemed disturbed by her actions despite his good deeds towards her.
A day after an argument, he suffers a heart attack, which sends her to praises thinking that he is dead adding that she wants to divorce him because she does not love him. Eventually, he learns that Barbara wants to acquire the house with everything in it. This shows the greed for material wealth contributing to domestic violence.
Conversely, Oliver agrees to give him enough money to relinquish his house, but he does not succeed. Sharing his story with Gavin, Gavin advises him to start a new life by leaving her, but he is reluctant and furiously fires him. Taking matter on his hands, both he and his wife begin to spit and humiliate each other in front of clients and friends (The War of the Roses).
At one incident, Susan, their housekeeper, calls Gavin to help to settle a dispute. On arrival, he finds them hanging dangerously on a Chandelier. He hears Oliver confessing to his wife that he loves her despite their disputes and hardships they encounter in marriage.
Unfortunately, the two fell down crashing violently on the verandah. Oliver attempted powerlessly to go for his wife’s shoulder; however, the enraged wife did all that was within her capacity to prevent him. Roses died separated despite Oliver’s effort to see his marriage gain stability.
Gavin requests his punter to decide between resolving his marriage arguments and taking the matter to court, which would lead to him encountering dreadful atrocity in the court. The client chose to go home and love his wife. The experience of Oliver and Barbara became a lesson to other people on how to settle their marriage disputes.
In conclusion, domestic violence seems to result from the nature of the love style that joined the marriage and relationships together. From the two movies, it is evident that relationships broke because of the weak attachments that existed between the partners.
Olive and Barbara met in an auction and their relationship began immediately after missing her ferry and spending the night with Oliver. The two did not take time to understand each other, and as a result, Barbara’s greed caught Oliver with a surprise. Therefore, choosing the right love style before getting into marriage life is the best way to avoid domestic violence.
Emanuele, Enzo et al. “Genetic Loading on Human Loving Styles.” Neuro Endocrinol Lett 28.6 (2007): 815–21. Print.
Gone with the Wind. Ex. Prod. David O. Selznick. Atlanta, Vic.: Selznick International Pictures Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer. 1939. DVD.
The War of the Roses. Ex. Prod. James L. Brooks. Washington D.C., Vic.: Gracie Films. 1989. DVD.